MIDRA MODUS: Are you Finally Ready?

SOFT THERAPY / COACHING STYLE?

If you have any experience in general therapy or coaching, you can probably attest to the common complaint that they are "too soft", "inactive", or "passive".

Some practitioners take these precautions with their clients to "soften the blow". In some cases, clients may not be ready for any other approach. Or they could still require building up some level of psychological resilience before "hearing the hard truth". If this is in fact the reality of the clients, then such methods seem temporarily appropriate.

However, the extended overuse of such formalities and sensitivities is often at the expense of achieving the purpose of therapy or coaching in the first place.

MIDRA

(Mercifully Intensive and Direct Reality Assessments)

MIDRA is an interpersonal methodology that assesses your situation through as an objective lens as possible. 

No fluff. 
No beating around the bush. 
Just realities.

The process is rooted in a foundation of wanting your best interests (Mercy) which allows for abrasive techniques that seek to arrive at the heart of your presenting challenges as quickly as possible.

MIDRA operates on the premise that each challenge in our lives is inextricably linked to the other.

Our experiences and troubles are like a spider's web. It may seem complicated to make sense of at first, but it all definitively leads back to the same place.

One beginning.

That is where we are trying to get to. In order to make sense of the whole, we must first traverse, arrive, understand, and accept this first principle.

Thus, wherever we start on our expedition — assuming we are both giving 100% with sheer honesty — we will necessarily end where all the paths first emanated from.

1. Where are your problems coming from? Where is the source?
2. What are you doing to get in the way of such unveiling?
3. Are you not allowing yourself to know your truth? If so why?
4. How do we remove the obstacles so that we can venture deeper?
5. When we arrive at the source, how can we accept that this has been with us
6. What do we have to do to change our condition? What will it take?
7. Am I motivated to traverse the path of change and higher virtue?
8. Defining virtue and defining health, where are we going now?
9. How do we build a schedule/routine that we can stay consistent with?
10. When and how do we add responsibilities and tasks to our routine?
11. How do we maintain this change and accept that relapse is natural?
12. How do we develop a learn-as-you-fail mentality? Even if little at a time?

Throughout the process, the therapist/coach operates from a place of curiosity, not judgment.

The purpose of IDRA is to

a) unveil where certain behaviors, emotions, thoughts, and perspectives come from, and

b) get you to where you feel most optimal, authentic, and virtuous.

This, of course, will entail equipping you with the tools of critical thinking, cognitive challenging, reframing, and refocusing to be able to handle life's obstacles beyond the sessions.

Approach your reality,
with the mallet of confrontation,
and the chisel of acceptance.